EBRR Class Report # 14: Parenting
Begin: 4/24/2024
Finish: 6/24/2024
Title: Parenting
Instructor: Mrs. Rangel – Atwater Camp.
Why I choose to take this class:
This class teaches us how to raise children so they grow up to be healthy emotionally and socially.
What I learned from this class:
The stages of parent across the life span:
– Birth – 12 months
Trust, bonding, attachment,, security. Provide love, safety, attention and care.
– 12 months to 36 months
Motor skills, exploration, independence. Help child vocalize their thoughts, provide assurance.
– 3 – 6 Years
Language, social skills, imagination. Use authority, be a role model, guide child in learning and solving problem.
– 6-12 Years
Peer relations, school, problem solving. Offer guidance and support, be available to talk and listen.
– Adolescence 12 – 20 Years
Self Identity, peer relations, independence. Support, guidance, provide reassurance about physical changes.
– Early Adulthood 20- 40 Years
Intimacy, career, friendship, parenting.
– Middle adulthood 40 – 65 years
Career, family, community.
– Maturity (65 and beyond)
Resolution, acceptance of life and death.
The stages of childhood ranges from toddler to preschool years and school age years. Children are different due to physical,psychological, cultural and background differences. the role of the family includes understanding the Childs basic needs, motivating the Childs behavior, serving as a role model of appropriate behavior and the influence of siblings.
The types of parenting: 1) Absent, 2) Negligent, 3) Dictatorial and 4) Authoritative. Authoritative are strict but controlled.
Special challenges and concerns:
Emotional problems, physical disabilities and challenges, obstacle to learning, social problems, aggressive behaviors and problems at home.
How to raise emotionally and socially healthy kids:
1) Develop the child emotional intelligence.
2) Anxiety – Work you way out.
3) Manage anger – Positive disiplines.
4) Building self esteem – Guidance.
5) Teaching kids to care and empathy.
6) What make kids happy.
7) How children make friends.
8) Playing well with others.
9) Maintain friends.
10) Belonging, status, popularity and reflection.
11) Teasing and bullying.
12) Growling up social in the digital age.
Survival skills and tools for parents:
1) Have a plan.
2) Simplify, Simplify.
3) Praise and reward.
4) Distraction and redirection.
5) Rules, Consequences, follow – through.
6) Offer choices.
7) Pay attention.
8) Accept you mistakes.
Parenting, children communication road blocks:
1) Giving orders (telling them what to do).
2) Using threats (Warning of consequences).
3) Preaching (Telling child what they should do).
4) Lecturing (Trying to influence the child with facts).
5) Giving advice (tell the child how to solve a problem).
6) Blaming or criticizing (making negative comments).
7) Ridiculing , Shaming (Making fun of the child).
8) Analyzing (assuming you know the Childs reason or motive).
9) Consoling, reassuring (making the child feel better).
10) Asking questions (trying to find cause and motives).
11) Humoring, placating (trying to distract the child).
Listening from the heart:
1) Neutral response – are simple response that signal you are listening but don’t communicate judgement or opinion.
2) Invitation to say more.
3) Active listening – opens the door and help keep it open.
4) When you listen with love and use door openers, your child “hears” more than the words used.
Maximizing communication:
1) Posture.
2) Eye contact.
3) Facial expression.
4) Gestures.
5) Voice.
6) Touch.
7) Personal space
I message:
I message open up communication . You message create roadblocks.
I message formula:
– I feel – express your feeling.
– When – Tell child of problem behavior.
– Because – Explain why the behavior is a problem.
– Request for change – Behavior to be stopped or changed.
Communication, things that don’t work:
1) Questions.
2) Pleading and begging.
3) Statement of facts.
4) Lecturing.
5) Hostility and threats.
6) Spanking.
Guidance that works:
1) Praise – specific, immediate and sincere.
2) Rewards – given immediately after the desired behavior is performed.
3) Redirection – Most useful with younger children. Replace an unwanted activity with an acceptable one.
4) Change the environment.
5) Setting the limits – helps children understand behavior you want.
6) Modeling and instruction – simple instruction. Be a model for the behavior you want the child to learn.
7) Hold a family meeting.
Sensible Discipline Techniques:
1) Ignoring – Tune out.
2) Time out.
3) Logical consequences.
How will this class contribute to my success upon release?
The lessons learned from Parenting improve my analytical and critical thinking skills. Th knowledge gain will be use for my family and friends and will be taught to other communities where I volunteer my services.
