“I have learned that people will forget what you said , people will forget what you did , but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
–Maya Angelou
I received a book in the mail last month (that had this quote ) , it looked interesting . My friend wanted to read it , I told her that she could read it before me because it would take me a bit longer to read it due to my English than her , so she did. a week later my amazing friend received the most wonderful gift ( a week before her birthday) that a prisoner can get , The president of the United State of America signed her clemency and set her free. After almost 18 years in prison she received immediate release. She deserved it more than anyone else that I can think of . She is a intelligent , strong and unique woman , someone that I enjoyed being around and learned so much from , the person that introduced me to this website and reminded me who I am and where I came from , someone that I will truly miss daily , but more importantly , I am so happy for her . I know that she is going to do big things in her life and being a very successful woman and if by any chance she reads this , I am very thankful for you and for what you have been for me . I love you so much . So , back to the book . I took the book back from her when I helped her pack out her belongings . I started to read the book myself . I am still reading it . In the end of each chapter the author has some questions written for self reflection. Recently I am working on letting things go and not personalizing things . For the last 3 weeks I have been trying to think of ways to do that . As part of myself reflection I took one question and after I answered it myself I asked my peers that I consider to be honest to answered as well . The question was ; ” How do people feel in your presence ? what kind of culture do you create around you ? ” This are the answers : My answer was ; I think people feel tense and uncomfortable around me and may see me as unapproachable. They may think I am a snob and maybe a little bit aggressive or maybe they feel that I am judgmental .The culture I believe I create around me is a culture of positivity , honesty , achieving goals and following the rules . When I asked my peers , their responses surprised me . I asked 7 different peers and the main opinion they shared was that they felt comfortable to be themselves around me .3 of them added that on top of that they feel peaceful in my presence, and 1 of the peers said she felt energized by our conversation. She believes that I am very purposeful woman with drive and good intentions. She added that she feels motivated and encouraged by me , engages and intellectually stimulated.
Their opinion of the culture I create around me was that they find me to be nonjudgmental and welcoming with the culture of openness and honesty . One peer wrote ” If I want to hear the truth and receive honest advice I choose to come to you out of all people ” Another peer said that I create variety and the majority said intellectual culture.
Wow I was surprised ! You see how different our answers was ?! . I didn’t even think for a second that people see me in a such a positive way . this showed me how important our self talk is for our own growth . When we plant negative thoughts in our mind we grow to believe them and then we create the wrong emotions. We , or I should say I , pay to much attention to what or how people see me , all I need to focus on is how I see myself and how God sees me. I am still me and I don’t need to change me . All I need to change is my thinking errors and my negative self talk as well as how I react to situation.
For the next week I will start writing for myself a daily positive affirmation to strengthen my positive self talk , so when the president of the United States grants my freedom I am ready for for a better tomorrow . Manifesting my reality right ?
The future will say . ( so maybe it is time to actually submit my application) 🙂
