Mentor Moment..
I have been a “Life Performance Coach” for over (ten) years… ironically I rarely tend to mention it unless I am asked specifically, however I guess people can sense it… I also would not consider myself an expert in relationship coaching, however I am often asked my opinion/requested for advice regarding relationships… I accept these conversations with great humbled honor…
This particular conversation was interesting with “A.T. “…. he believes it is next to impossible for him to ever be in a monogamous relationship. He randomly asked my opinion about this… I shared that I can relate to how he feels as I too used to have similar thoughts. I proceeded to ask him why does he think this about himself. He replied that his best guess is he is just unable to be content with one woman. I explained my journey and process of choosing my life partner plus what lead to my ease of commitment… he was baffled and found value in my approach. By the conclusion of our convo he learned and realized the root of his so called contentment has a deeper seed of his FEAR of Commitment. I pointed this out to him and also gave him a simple task to assist him on how to RELEASE his fear and easily become more open and confident plus comfortable with committing to one woman. In addition, I gave him a real example exercising a process I personally did that worked for my own personal relationship. The task was for him to develop & create a personal “Check List” for a perfect mate as if he was able to sit beside GOD, the creator and build the perfect match of a woman for himself… He began to list several physical attributes, but I also demanded he include personality traits, hobbies, interest, & even upbringing, etc amongst several other skills and ideals. He enjoyed the process and thanked me very much.
I was delighted and grateful I was able to earn his trust and be a guiding light for his path.
