JUDGE THEM OFF THEIR WORDS NOT ON THEIR BEHAVIOR 01/22/2022 1:45p
Betty dover born under former President Gerald R Ford
I’m in the feds again it had to happen. My life had been protected again thank you god!! As I lay on my bunk with thought.
As humans you must always be prepared to a place a bet on yourself and on your future. I do this by heading in a direction others fear.
I was a young girl broken from my past which led me to subvert pattering which succumbs my mental patters to very repetitive actions.
As a human sometimes, I forget that I am not an animal, but I try to rely n my instincts and habits to survive. I need to depend on my conscious and rational thinking that leads to my actions.
I was a child of molestation by my own father at the young age of 12. I was laying in my bunk just thinking of how a person that gave you life can take your innocence away from you.
I learn to survive as animals my instincts of learning to live without the love of a father kicks in. I still had love for the man because the Bible says “Love thy Father”.
As learning what I thought was surviving was selling drugs and stealing. By now I was watching what the streets was about. My mother began doing crack-cocaine by the time I was 14 yrs old. this led me into a destructive lifestyle.
I was getting interested in what I saw out in the streets. One night as I was walking into the house;there was a drug dealer hanging around my neighborhood. WOW! Word was he would teach you to hustle drugs if you want to learn the object was to flip,flip,but never was mentioned that if you get caught you are going to prison. SURVIVAL MODE WOW!!
It bothered me to see the women I love my mother get addicted to such a drug like crack. WOW!
As the years went on I learned and watched the behavior of a human being be destroyed. In my mind I said I would never use drugs, but I love the power of demand so as a human I got in my head I was going to master the product.
By the age of 24 I was arrested in the feds. Going to prison at a young age leaving behind my baby girl. Getting out of person doing the same thing again. By this time with me going to prison again thinking in my head what causes me to do the same repetitive thing for survival mode. What was in my head leaves me thinking I am above the law this time leaving behind my son.
Now I am learning my mental health was apart of my actions. Survival mode led me down the road again. By not looking at myself my decisions based on the desire for money and attention led to emotional burnout and dead-ends. I became trapped in patterning of behaviors that I couldn’t control. I will learn from my mistakes as I am here in prison proactively learning how to better myself so that I live a happy, healthy life moving forward.
I WAS BORN TO STAND OUT
Betty Dover
—–Professions, Interns on 3/19/2025 6:51 AM wrote:
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“Leaders taught me crucial strategies to make it through a crisis or any kind of struggle. They emphasized the importance of knowing precisely where we want to go, or what we want to achieve. When we plan well, our incremental goals pave a pathway that leads to greater opportunities.
I was fortunate to have had many opportunities along the way. Some may find it ironic to say that I found so many opportunities while serving time in prison. Yet, the lessons I learned from leaders shaped my perspective. They guided me to spend my early years inside focusing on education and strengthening my support network. By staying true to that path, I discovered meaningful, measurable ways to contribute to the lives of others.
This strategy isn’t limited to those going through the justice system. It’s universal, offering solutions for anyone experiencing a personal crisis or struggle. The leaders I encountered taught me to:
Define success as the best possible outcome.
Create plans that will lead to that outcome.
Put priorities in place.
Build tools, tactics, and resources that accelerate the plan.
Establish accountability tools to measure progress.
Adjust as necessary.
Execute the plan every day.
By following these principles during my imprisonment, I positioned myself for the many opportunities that opened up once I got out. After finishing my sentence in August of 2013, I launched a series of businesses. Through both successes and setbacks, I learned that every phase of the journey is vital we’ve got to embrace them all, remaining focused on incremental progress.
Now that I’m 61, having been out of prison for more than a decade, I’m rebuilding and continuing to spread this message of hope, discipline, and personal development. Over the past several weeks, I’ve been working to build this new website, and I’m now recruiting interns who want to help amplify the message.
Next month, I’ll travel to UC Berkeley, in the San Francisco Bay Area, at the invitation of Professor Alan Ross. I’ll speak to several hundred students about our work, inviting them to join our community and help us improve outcomes for 1 million people in prison. It’s one part of a larger plan to keep building, keep striving, and make a meaningful impact on our world. After all, this mission gives purpose to the years I spent behind bars.
Self-Directed Learning Question:
How can you define a clear vision for success in your own life and then break it down into the incremental steps necessary to overcome challenges and realize that vision?”
